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the_answers_by_dr_pat_allenThis is Not Oprah's Book Club, But A Must Read

This is a must read women!!! Before you start thinking, venting, whining, wondering endlessly about why, why why!?! Read this book.

It is the cliff notes version of the best advice I can give or you can read (cover to cover on one flight or an elliptical machine session!).  Dr. Pat Allen is a therapist who has seen it all and gives the kind of cut and dry intelligent advice every woman needs to hear, read and re-read.

Particularly, accept or reject behavior.  When you tolerate, relationships become toxic and that poison, those high levels of stress which lead to cortisol levels that can become toxic are what eat women from the inside.  The physical manifestation of your emotional angst.  So GET HEALTHY!  This book is a quick, daily work out for your mind.  Then you can get to your body, you career, your family, and so forth.  But the essentials here are your tools and its all about balance.  This book is like core strength and breathing for Your Mind.

Download on ibooks and you can high light in different colors (my favorite feature).  I high light the things for me to remember in one color and the things for me to observe from the man I want a relationship with in another color.  We cannot be both the male and female energy in a relationship.  To be both is narcissistic and I realized what I was doing in relationships was keeping me single.  Which was great when I wanted to stay single, but when I realized I wanted a long term committed relationship I realized I couldn't want him to be the guy, and then jerk the steering wheel away at will without negotiating a shift.  And negotiating can be as simple as asking.  But taking over and steam rolling is going to shut down your masculine man.

Just read it!  ;)

And let's get this straight.  The most lovely and powerful women have the biggest issues with men.  We are powerful in the office but we want to be feminine as well.  I have friends in their 60s who are still mooning over their men who will not commit.

To paraphrase a Jewel song…”We were made to love!”

~ R.B. LeBlanc

Resources: 

The Answers, by Dr. Pat Allen http://www.drpatallen.com/index.shtml

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